Where parents have informally agreed arrangements for their children, such as where the children shall live and how much time they will spend with each of their parents, it can be helpful to put this in writing so that it can provide certainty and be referred to in the future. Such an agreement is often referred to as a Parenting Agreement or Parenting Plan.
Child arrangements are often an informal agreement between both parents. It is also possible to have shared calendars, use a co-parenting app or write the agreement down.
A Parenting Agreement is intended to record what arrangements have been agreed between both parents and their agreement to work together for the benefit of the children now and in the future. One of the key benefits of a Parenting Agreement is that it can be updated as the children grow older, or circumstances change. Flexibility will always be necessary to meet your child’s needs which will inevitably change over time; however, such an agreement can provide a framework for parents to work from and reduce any misunderstandings.
What can be included within a Parenting Agreement?
- Practical day-to-day arrangements during term time and in the school holidays.
- Arrangements for special occasions and birthdays.
- Arrangements for your child’s future education and routine medical and dental appointments.
- When either parent can take the children abroad, including how much notice should be given to one another and when to provide travel details such as where they will be staying.
- How you will communicate with one another about the arrangements, including any specific method of communication in the event of an emergency.
- How you will stay connected with your children when they are staying with their other parent.
- How you will each introduce a new partner to the children in the future.
It is important to focus on the specific needs of your children to ensure the arrangements provide them with a sense of stability and security when spending time with both parents.
The best arrangements for your children will be the ones that you agree together. A Parenting Agreement should not be entered into unless both parents agree and intend to be bound by the terms.
What happens if you are unable to agree via direct discussions?
If discussions between you have broken down, there are additional steps you can take to try to reach a resolution. Mediation could be a sensible initial step where both parents speak to a neutral third party who can help facilitate the discussions and narrow down any remaining issues. Alternatively, you may instruct a solicitor to support you. They can prepare a letter setting out what has been agreed, put forward any proposals on points yet to be agreed and negotiate on your behalf with the other parent and their legal representative.
If the above methods have not proved successful, an application to the Family Court may be necessary to resolve matters by way of a Child Arrangements Order. Attendance at mediation is a pre-requisite for making such an application.
How can Tozers help?
Tozers can provide you with the guidance and support you need during this challenging time. Our experienced team understands the complexities of divorce and the importance of addressing financial matters promptly. We can help you navigate the legal process, ensuring that all necessary documents are filed correctly and on time.
